“Life’s waters flow from darkness. Search the darkness, don’t run from it.
Night travelers are full of light, and you are too: don’t leave this companionship…
The moon appears for night travelers, be watchful when the moon is full.”
When panic and fear arise we feel it physically in our bodies. Fear takes root in our thoughts, emotions and tissues. When we get triggered and are living in the thoughts and feelings of our fear we become contracted. The way through is to soften; soften our thoughts, soften our emotions and soften in the body.
Depending on how you can resource in the moment will determine your approach. There are three main areas to look at:
- Relieving anxious feelings in the body by shifting from fight/flight sympathetic nervous system into parasympathetic rest, digest repair
- Changing the thoughts that fuel the anxiety
- Moving through the challenging emotions to a move expanded view.
To relieve physical stress and tension in the body pause, breathe, move, physically soften into the areas of stress and tension
To change the thoughts; notice any repeating fear thoughts in your mind; what’s going wrong and what’s going to go wrong? Notice any judging, obsession, any need to figure things out. Notice your emotions; ie fear, angst, panic. Deepen your attention; What is the belief that is fueling the discomfort. Is this belief true? It is real for you bit not necessarily true. What does the part in you that is triggered really need to be alright now? Is it acceptance, support, love, compassion. Can you give yourself that?
Change your thoughts; you have to keep having fear thoughts for the emotion to set in. An emotion left to its own devices take 1.5 minutes to flow through the body, it’s the fear thinking that keeps fueling it and keeps it trapped in the body.
Be mindful of the unhealthful behaviours that you may use to mask the feelings; too much sleep, over consuming, eating, medications, speeding up and doing more, rationalising things to yourself, misrepresenting the truth, controlling others, controlling yourself, aggression, judgement, being harsh against yourself and others. These are all fear management behaviours that don’t serve.
Awaking from the fear body requires us to on purpose find a way back to a sense of safety. This requires resourcing and soothing the nervous system.
It can take many rounds of practice.
Combining essential oils, the breath, mindfulness and body work helps to calm the fight/flight sympathetic nervous system and evoke the parasympathetic nervous system to integrate access to rational thinking, empathy and compassion.